How many times have you told yourself, “I can do it!” Sometimes it seems as if we are our own biggest rivalry. By allowing fear and confusion to clutter our thoughts, we sometimes miss out on great opportunities that could enable us to be happier, wealthier, and more competent in life. Sometimes we feel lost and bewildered as to what direction we should take. We think, “Do I go left, right, straight, or simply turn around?” The act of turning around seems like a fearful approach to making an educated decision or taking a risk on something that could mean venturing into unfamiliar territory.

There are many great resources out there that can aid someone in finding the wisdom or courage to step out and try new experiences or journeys in life. Some people seek knowledge and guidance from trusted friends; some check out recommended novels; and some simply focus on their inner spirit and pray for wisdom and direction from God above. Then, with motivation and persistence, they take a leap of faith and move forward, for better or worse’ — hoping for better.

Self discipline is the act of taking action regardless of one’s emotional state. Ultimately, many people fail to meet standards or timelines due to a lack of motivation to follow through with the best of intentions. Without self-discipline, the greatest intention will not become manifested. Self-discipline can empower a person to fight an addiction, lose weight, start a job, complete educational goals and follow the values of one’s internal ideologies. It can also prove beneficial in eliminating procrastination and disorder in one’s life.

In some respects, self-discipline is like a muscle. For example, when lifting weights, you know your limits. Challenges will come, but you must continue strengthening that muscle in order to keep it strong. Ignoring your body and failing to work out would increase your chances of becoming weak and not being able to perform at your greatest potential.

Even more powerful than self-discipline is self-leadership; this relates to the leadership that we exercise over ourselves. One must realize that it is crucial to be able to lead yourself effectively before you could ever dream of leading someone else. You must realize also that people are greatly influenced by their surroundings and the ability to learn and experience events through vicarious and symbolic mechanisms is important.

Not only can we learn from others, but we can use our imagination and creativity to effectively make a difference in the lives of those we embrace on a daily basis. Therefore, no matter what the task, with the right guidance and will power, in most cases, you can do it.

Dr. Sonya Rogers is a certified counselor who lives in Daphne.

Her column regularly appears in The Bulletin.