In sports such as baseball or softball, it is very important for players to make sure their bases are covered. Otherwise, a base could be stolen. In a work environment, the same type of behavior can occur. If you aren’t careful to “cover your bases,” people can seek to steal your job, your glory, or your self-respect. Those who appear to be victorious in the eyes of others, who are always in the spotlight, or who are thought of as very “active” tend to be targets of judgment.

If you are a dedicated worker at school or at work, do you feel as though you are a slave to your studies, to your boss, or to the public? If so, without stealing someone else’s base, try hard to find the best way to satisfy your career goals or ambitious desires without sabotaging others. If you are miserable in what you do each day, step out! Life is too short to be spent in bondage. Take smart risks to venture and explore new opportunities.

Many parents who struggle with negative dilemmas at work often come home still feeling enraged and their family members are the ones who innocently suffer the wrath. Unfortunately, the struggles an adult faces during the day can infect those around them.

Consequently, if a child is experiencing troubles at school and comes home with a negative attitude, it is best to talk with him or her and help find the root of the problem. When dealing with a child who has broken a rule, keep in mind that discipline is different from punishment. Children need to know that “good” behavior is expected and could be rewarded, but “bad” behavior is not acceptable and should entail negative consequences. “Normal” behavior for children generally depends on the child’s age, personality, and physical and emotional development. However, at any age, children should know what expectations are set by parents and other adults.

Rewarding and punishing a child in an inconsistent manner can become somewhat confusing. When your child’s behavior becomes a problem, punishment is necessary. Likewise, it is important to introduce a new behavior that is acceptable and then reinforce it by rewarding your child. Sometimes children need to be reminded of what types of behavior constitute “good” behavior.

Think for a bit—in your family, are you the coach, the player, or the parent? Who makes the rules in your family? Wearing “more than one hat” can serve as beneficial; yet, also sometimes perplexes children. Discover a method that works best for you and your family when disciplining, rewarding, or punishing your child.

However, do not let your problems at work or in society create unwarranted battles for your family at home.

Dr. Sonya Rogers is a certified counselor who lives in Daphne. 

Her column regularly appears in the Daphne Bulletin and Spanish Fort Sun.